How to Live in Limbo with a Smile
Wives of addicts often complain about having to live in limbo. So many feel that all their plans for the future were snatched away, along with their security, the day they found out about their husband’s struggle. They no longer have any idea what the future will look like . . . and they hate…
Were You Cheated in the Romance Department?
Romance is a big deal for most women. Whether it’s with candles and elegance or spontaneity and surprises, it makes us feel special and feeds our deep yearning to be chosen, pursued and cherished. For anyone married to a sex addict, however, daring to hope for romance generally provides nothing but intense pain and disappointment.…
Are Men Just Made That Way?
What if men can’t help themselves? What if doing porn or having affairs are just part of the male make-up? We’ve probably all heard some variation of this rationale. It might have been something like “boys will be boys,” “men have a higher sex drive,” or “men need variety—they get bored in monogamous relationships.” Maybe…
The Wrong Way to Get Value
Many of us have been told that we are codependent. It doesn’t feel very complimentary, but what does it really mean? The truth is, unless they are in recovery, themselves, most spouses of addicts are codependent. There is something about the very nature of addiction that turns those around it into victims of the disease.…
Can Trust Be Restored After Porn?
You’ve probably all heard sermons and marriage seminars that talked about the respect and love passage in Ephesians 5:33. The big quandary for many of us is how we can possibly live out those words when our husband is involved in unrespectable sexual behaviors that make us feel anything but loved. Both men and women…
What Every Wife Should Know . . .
