The Wrong Way to Get Value

Many of us have been told that we are codependent. It doesn’t feel very complimentary, but what does it really mean? The truth is, unless they are in recovery, themselves, most spouses of addicts are codependent. There is something about the very nature of addiction that turns those around it into victims of the disease.…

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Can Trust Be Restored After Porn?

You’ve probably all heard sermons and marriage seminars that talked about the respect and love passage in Ephesians 5:33. The big quandary for many of us is how we can possibly live out those words when our husband is involved in unrespectable sexual behaviors that make us feel anything but loved. Both men and women…

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How Can He Love God and Do THAT?

Do you sometimes wonder whether your husband is really even a Christian? There’s little doubt that his behavior grieves God and hurts others. Wouldn’t a real Christian be able to “man-up” and start leading his family in the ways of righteousness? He claims to know it’s wrong and yet he still keeps going back to…

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The 4 Keys to Staying Strong on the Journey

Sexual addiction recovery can often be a long road. It’s often easy to be strong for a day or a week, but how do you sustain it for months or even years? When I was looking for a name for the blog, I tried scores of different things. Some of them were dumb (I mean…

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Think You Want to Know? Be Careful!

As wives, shouldn’t we have the right to hear all the details about what our husbands have done in their sexual addiction? Maaaaybeeeee . . .  but there is something much more important to consider here than rights. You need to determine if it is the best thing for YOU! It is important for you…

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