Sexual addiction is not just a men’s problem. It is estimated that a minimum of 15-20% of all women struggle with sexual addiction—even in the Christian community—and it appears that that number is on the rise.
Statistics show that nearly one third of the visitors to pornographic websites are women. Others act out in a variety of different ways including obsessing or fantasizing about a man or men; chronically dressing or acting provocatively to attract male attention; using masturbation to escape problems, relieve stress or avoid true intimacy; regularly visiting chat rooms or engaging in phone sex, or trading sex for money or things.
It has been observed that women, in general, are much more likely than men to act out their behaviors in real life, by having multiple partners, casual sex or a series of affairs. It is not unusual for them to crave the excitement of being pursued (or being the pursuer), and yet get bored once they have “won”.
Many addicted women don’t even enjoy the sexual experience. They have learned to tolerate sex to get what they REALLY want—love, touch, nurture, the assurance that they are OK, or medication from emotional pain.
How do you know if YOU are addicted to sex*? Among other things, you may have experienced negative consequences due to your sexual or relational behavior; have troubles maintaining long term relationships; need fantasies or memories to get aroused or satisfied; and experience residual guilt or depression.
If you think you may have a sexual addiction, the journey to freedom is the same as it is for men. Trying harder to abstain will not give you lasting freedom, you must reach out to others and allow God to isolate and heal the wounds that keep you stuck.
(*If you’re concerned, download the women’s screening tool, below)
Sexual Addiction Screening for Women
“Woman . . . then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” John 8:11
TODAY’S CHAT: Do you know any women who seem to have an unhealthy relationship with sex? Which of their behaviors or attitudes concern you?
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