I’m so DONE with this—I just can’t do it anymore!


I’ve been working with the spouses of sex addicts since 2003. Time and time again I’ve heard wives say “I’m done — I just can’t live with his behaviors a minute longer!” I totally understand their frustration I’ve been there myself. The first time was just weeks before Bruce and I were to be married.…

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Are You the Victim of a Really Bad Solution?

bad solution

EVERYONE is going to get hurt at some point in their life. You can count on it. The way we choose to deal with the pain it causes will either bring us freedom or create a prison. Unfortunately, what seems to be the “logical” way to deal with it is actually a very bad solution.…

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The Simple Secrets of a Successful Recovery


Whether you’re the struggler or the spouse, addiction recovery can easily become overwhelming. There seems to be so much to learn; so much to do; so much to feel. It can often be a long process for both of you. Few people realize that most of the work that needs to be done is centered…

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The 5 Things I Hope You NEVER Forget

repeating something often will help us never forget

We all have things we will probably never forget: maybe it’s that locker combination from 7th grade; or the phone number your family had when you were growing up; or maybe it was how humiliated you felt when you tripped and everyone in the room laughed at you. Those things are indelibly imprinted in our…

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3 BIG Relapse Flags You Need to be Aware Of


Relapse happens From time to time my husband and I will have an old client call out of the blue to make an appointment with us. Unfortunately, they rarely call because they just want to tell us how great they’re doing—it’s usually because of a relapse. The scenario is almost always the same. They arrive.…

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